Take Off the Price Tag

Price tags are made to come off before an item is used or gift wrapped. If you will use an item yourself there is no reason to remind yourself what it cost. If it’s a gift, people will tell you it’s tacky to leave the price tag on. But I’m not worried about being tacky. It’s a gift, and a gift is defined as “something voluntarily transferred by one person to another without compensation.” So often, people get disillusioned when they give something to someone and then get nothing in return. Or worse; what they get in return is not what they expected or wanted. When one gives of themselves to another, whether the gift is material or emotional, the act of giving must be enough. I know it’s a difficult idea to embrace because we’re not taught to think that way. Sure, our parents say we shouldn’t expect anything in return and “giving is its own reward” but how often are we told; “Be good and Santa will bring you that Barbie doll” or “If you’re nice to your sister we’ll get ice cream.” TV tells us to donate to feel better about ourselves and even the most magnanimous volunteer group offers t-shirts or mugs or “free” movie tickets to entice people to “give” their time and talent to others. Believe me; I am not condemning anyone. This is the world in which we live, and reciprocity is a survival technique but, this column is not concerned with the world or how we deal with all of the other seven billion people, just one; Her. It is unreasonable to expect anyone to give completely to everyone. It is not, however, unreasonable to give completely to the woman you love. Yes, you can buy Her things, but tell Her you love Her just because the sun is up, open Her door, telephone Her mom just to say hi, wash Her car and do the friggin’ dishes once in a while without saying “look what I did for you.” Regardless of what it cost you, nothing given to Her should have a price tag.


About John

It is important to me to treat women not just fairly but well.
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