Date Night

You catch a glimpse of Her across a crowded room. Not sure of Your eyes, your only thought is how to get another look. You struggle for a better view and, when the crowd parts, there She is. Your eyes meet and She holds your glance for a moment, then looks away, but not completely. In that tiny, wordless conversation, your plans for the evening (weekend, life) have changed. Remember?
People say, “Have a date night, it will keep your relationship fresh.” They’re right, but those people are still getting divorced with the same frequency as everyone else. The trouble is, on date night couples do the same things they do every other night. They talk about the same things as every other night. They go to the same places as every other night. They are the same couple as they are every other night. Now, I’m not suggesting you act like you don’t know each other, but change it up. Meet at a new place. If She gets to the bar or restaurant first, send Her a drink before you approach Her. Ask permission to sit down. Find out about Her. For God’s sake don’t start complaining about the day you’ve had or rehash the same coversations you’ve had a thousand times. Make it a point to learn something about Her that you didn’t know before; whether it’s something about Her childhood or a specific like or dislike She has. Date night should be about getting to know each other. This does not have to be an elaborate charade. You don’t have to pretend to be people you’re not who about to embark on a torrid one night stand……….. But, don’t rule anything out either.


About John

It is important to me to treat women not just fairly but well.
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5 Responses to Date Night

  1. samantha says:

    you just keep nailing it. wow

  2. samantha says:

    wow. you just keep nailing it.

  3. GoingCrazy01 says:

    Wow! You have just put into words EXACTLY what I’ve been trying to tell my husband for years! Maybe he’ll listen now that another man is providing the same advice. Do you do house calls?

    Great insight! Keep writing, I can’t wait to see what comes next.

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