Pursue Her

Yeah, you would think that would go without saying but….
At the beginning She gets chased. She gets called, She gets flowers. She gets apologies for the smallest infractions. She gets so much attention that She may feel a bit overwhelmed. She is the prey, the object of desire, the target. So, what happened?
After a relationship has been going on for a while. She is not being chased anymore. Of course the initial “hunt” is over, the quarry caught, but that does not mean you can stop pursuing Her. You are not a big game hunter and She is not an animal, put in a zoo that you can just visit when you have nothing better to do on a Saturday afternoon.
The pursuit should never stop. She should always feel as if She were the object of a quest. She should be your number one goal, not just a trophy on your mantle.
This can be a difficult thing for a spouse or partner since we tend to be goal oriented. Meaning, when driving, the destination is the point, not the journey. The last page of a book is the goal, not all those verbs, nouns and adjectives in between. The end result of any project is the important thing. So, when the book is read, the journey traveled and the project built, we go on to the next book, trip or project.
No, no, no.
The pursuit of a Woman is the thing. It is the goal, the prize. The opportunity to continue to pursue Her throughout your relationship should never be taken for granted. Having Her with you should not just be a fact, it is a privilege. You must call Her for no good reason. Send Her flowers on a Tuesday (I’ve said that before but it bears repeating.) Take Her out on a date, and I don’t mean go to Burger King because you’re both too tired to cook. I mean take Her someplace nice. And, not simply “Get dressed, we’re going out.” Ask Her out and make a date for a week from Friday so She has time to look forward to it. You will find yourself looking forward to it too.
Now cut to the chase.


About John

It is important to me to treat women not just fairly but well.
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