Don’t Ask

Let’s assume you have done something insensitive or just plain dumb (generally a safe assumption) and She is not happy. You may not realize that there is a problem. If you pay attention to Her, you will soon. Pray it’s not too late.
You ask, “You okay?” She says, “I am fine.”
You ask, “Is everything alright?” She says, “It is.”
You ask, “Is there anything that I can do to help Sweetheart?
She says, “No.”

Oh crap.
Please notice two things; One; You have spoken more words than Her and statistically, unless you are the keynote speaker in a lecture hall or a talk radio host, She should speak more than you. So something is not right. And two; your questions are getting longer while Her answers are getting shorter. This should be a warning sign to all but the most dense of us. When She uses fewer and fewer words it can be a sign of frustration and an ever shortening fuse. Trying to be cute and make Her smile at this point is counter productive at best (and potentially disastrous) A better use of your time would be to; One, assume you have done something wrong. Two, try and figure out what you may have done to piss Her off. Three, let Her know you recognize it and Four, apologize properly.


About John

It is important to me to treat women not just fairly but well.
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One Response to Don’t Ask

  1. You hit the nail on the head this time. You are 100% right on. Nothing more can be added that’s how well you have sized up the situation. Thanks. Keep Blogging. Keep Writing.

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