Don’t Just Do Something, Stand There

Action, for the sake of action is, unless you’re in a Michael Bay film, pointless. Running around like a chicken with its head cut off is like, well, running around like a chicken with its head cut off.
There are times when She wants to do something with you that may seem like a waste of time. Perhaps She wants to saunter through downtown just looking in store windows, not even really talking, just breathing. Not even really walking just being pushed around by the breeze. Maybe cruising garage sales with no intention of buying anything is Her idea of a good time. Or, afterward, She wants to cuddle instead of just falling dead asleep or jumping up to make a sandwich and flipping on Sport Center.
It is in the nature of humans to have a point, a goal. If you’re walking, there needs to be a destination. If you’re shopping, it should be for something specific. If you’re eating Cracker Jacks, there needs to be a secret decoder ring at the bottom of the box.
That’s all fine, but sometimes Her goal may not be all that obvious to you. Maybe She likes to walk because it takes no thought and allows Her to organize Her mind to accommodate all the stuff She has to do when She doesn’t have the time. Shopping for nothing lets Her get ideas for Her environment, events, and people that are a part of Her life. And maybe, just maybe, She likes Cracker Jacks.
If you try and force Her activities to fit into your goals, neither of you will be happy. Remember your number one goal; make Her happy.
So, the next time you find yourself next to Her, staring at your own reflection in a store window and you feel the need to run inside and buy something that you don’t really need or want, take a breath and remember, don’t just do something, stand there.


About John

It is important to me to treat women not just fairly but well.
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