Shut the Back Door

Statistics claim that around half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. That really sucks. The unspoken escape clause or back door is the biggest reason. Since, for most people, getting divorced is easier than getting married, partners enter a relationship with the knowledge that if there is a problem, getting out of it (the relationship) is simple. Spouses argue and fight, and every so often the thought; “this could all be fixed if we weren’t together” creeps into one or both minds. When ending a fight with divorce becomes a viable option, the fight can devolve into a nasty sparring match in which words are used that can never be unheard, things are done which can never be undone or forgotten. Once those things are said and done the spouses feel justified in leaving and head for the back door.
There are, of course two people in every relationship, so you can control only half of it. That said: People don’t get divorced because of affairs or disrepect, they have affairs and disrespect each other because they are willing to get divorced. Once you carry Her across that threshold, shut the back door.

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